“Raising children is, in a sense, the reason the society exists in the first place. It’s the most important thing that happens, and it’s the culmination of all the tools and language and social structure that has evolved.” Michael Crichton
The above quote by one of America’s great science fiction writers resonates because it sums up in unequivocal terms the existential purpose of society, i.e., the propagation of the human species. The evolution of humankind has been toward a societal level of existence that created an environment of mutual security, safety, and cooperation without which humans may never have reached a civilizational level. Historically, when societies devolve into chaos, as has often happened, the results are anything but civil, hardly a healthy environment for raising children.
One of the essential elements of a society is its culture, its DNA, which carries the essential characteristics for its successful functioning and development; the more a culture represents civility and mutual respect, the more benevolent a society and its polity. What we are experiencing in today’s world is clearly a state of chaos as society has devolved into two distinct and existentially opposite groups as Robert A. Heinlein observed when he said, “The human race divides politically into those who want people to be controlled and those who have no such desire.” This division within society is not unique to any one country or even any historical period. It occurs when a society’s cultural DNA develops a genetic flaw.
It should be obvious to most people given the chaos among our children as they rampage through public spaces assaulting, vandalizing and stealing, that as a society we have a problem; add to this the rise in mental illness, obesity and scholastic failure, and clearly you have enough issues to realize that somewhere along the way we lost, or worse discarded the ability to raise children successfully. The generational gap separating “Boomers” from their alphabetically designated offspring represents the starting point of a cultural disconnect; the Boomers were closely aligned culturally with their parents, who many historians refer to as “The Greatest Generation” for having not only survived what surely were very chaotic times, but thriving in the years that followed.
What changed in the aftermath of those chaotic times was the largest political alignment since then; it became East versus West, socialism/communism versus freedom and its free markets. What was created we called the Cold War, although it definitely had its hot moments; what was also created were important cultural shifts particularly in the US, i.e., the Civil Rights Movement, the growth of the Federal government, the growing influence of corporations, and the growth of the middle class. That’s a lot of stuff for any society to cope with culturally, although the economic environment, while still having its boom-and-bust periods, was relatively good.
What was also happening culturally was a change in how we raised children; the Boomers retained much of the cultural norms of “The Greatest Generation” regarding this, but with a more permissive attitude. The primary lesson for parents to teach their children is that with freedom comes responsibility for your actions and their consequences, and to achieve a positive consequence requires critical thinking, also referred to as common sense, an essential DNA element of our culture. If parents believe that instilling this discipline in their children is somehow misguided and punitive, they are missing the point that children need this structure to learn how to make good decisions. There is no guarantee that they will always make good decisions because as Mark Twain famously said, “Good decisions come from experience. Experience comes from making bad decisions.”
Another cultural change began in education. Boomer parents expanded on the prior generations’ focus on education and pushed their kids to get good grades in order to go to college; on the one hand this is a positive cultural trait, but education is not a one size fits all thing, nor does it guarantee a positive consequence. The educational establishment grew exponentially while producing high school graduates with below grade levels in reading and mathematics, and pushed kids on to college without the basic tools required; at the same time teachers’ unions became more powerful often instituting policies through their cronyism with big government that were beneficial for them, but not so much for students; as with many unions this politicalization provided the more radicalized members the opportunity to effect changes in curriculum that became more indoctrination than education.
This cultural change in raising children and in their education has resulted in a degradation of those values and mores that form the mutual bond within society; it has created a genetic flaw in the DNA of our culture unraveling the fabric of our society evidenced by the self-destructive policies and violent actions we see around us. The tradition of common sense, civility and objectivity, self-reliance and individualism has been replaced among the younger generations with the dependencies inherent in collectivism, and the mobocracies that result. Added to this phenomenon we still have inflation, more wars (perhaps not endless but definitely mindless), tariffs and trade wars, climate catastrophizing, growing antisemitism, extreme partisan politics, uncontrollable migrations, rampant fraud, crushing debt, growing homelessness, declining birth rates…. little wonder we have so much chaos.
While it is easy to become depressed about this situation, we must realize that all of the above happened before, creating the environment that resulted in the Great War and the Great Depression, (why do we title these obscene things as “Great”?!); we should know this as we have the empirical evidence known as history to make us understand that if we are to avoid the consequences of the actions we are causing, then we have to change what we are doing. Political action will take us just so far, but that is like taking drugs to address symptoms while failing to address the societal changes necessary to effect a cure. Chaos will always occur to some degree; baseball is predicated on chaos as anything can happen and usually does, like no-hitters and walk-off wins. It is predicated on the long view with 162 game seasons. No one game matters while every game matters. It is quintessentially American, and in the end, there is always a winner, because in our cultural DNA we have the means to not just survive but to thrive.
